For those of us who have been lucky enough to have kept our jobs or have been working from home. You may feel skeptical, anxious or uncertain about in heading back into the workplace. Within the coming months many companies are hoping to resume work as normal.
Some women are born to be mothers. Some women are born to be high flying business queens. Some of us will successfully juggle the two. Others will float between the realm of working and staying at home to raise children and some of us will never go on to have children but be fabulous godmothers, aunties, au pairs and caregivers.
The battle between The stay at home mother Vs The working mother is still an ongoing battlefield.
I for one have been on both sides of the fence. Returning to work when my first born was only 10 months. But staying home with my second until she can freely start nursery from the age of 2.
Below is a blog post from @theconservativechristianmommy when reading I was both a bit shocked and amused on this outdated take on motherhood!
Have a read and see what you think?
I know, it's so far from the truth right?!
But guess what? there are a lot of women and men out there that actually feel this way about parenting and raising children.
The truth be told; when I tell people I am a stay at home mother the response is generally "oh that's lovely, when are you going back to work?"
When I was a working mother the question would be "Well? who looks after your children?"
I have some very successful friends in Direct Sales who quit their full time jobs to stay at home with the children whilst working from their phones earning money through various social media platforms...
But will still get messages from people stating "get a real job" or "you can't care for your children if your always looking at your phone!" I even saw this vicious post "how do you feel about conning unknowing people out of money from this pyramid scheme?" Stop slamming women who have created an accomplished business through network marketing. They are at home and earning money win win!
How about the stay at home dads? @theconservativechristianmommy did not mention them (she probably cannot even fathom these men actually exist in the 21st century) who do a superb job of raising their children. It takes bravery and courage to step up especially after years and years of statements like "It's a man's job to provide" But in a time where a woman's salary can over take a mans it makes sense for the main breadwinner to return to work.
There are various reasons why a person will choose to return to work or stay home after having a baby. Sometimes the possibility of returning to work is taken from them by employers or the financial burden of trying to cover childcare costs is enough to deter a person.
I missed Matilda's first steps, I watched from my phone at my office desk and I balled my eyes out, I was so happy for her but very sad for myself that they were not my arms she clumsily fell into that day.
At that time I felt I needed to be in a position of work and I probably would of worked through these last two years of Poppy's life as well, because I believed with every part of me that's what I should do. Sometimes the universe has its own plan for you and I am so glad to my core that I have been present for every milestone of poppy's to date.
We are all trying to live our best life possible within our means. Whether that be staying at home with the children or going out to work. Everyone is just trying to survive financially, mentally and physically.
At the end of the day supporting others choices if it is right for them is what you should do.
Love LL x
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